Expectations

We all have expectations about many things in our lives – a situation, a job, a marriage, a child, a relationship, a family member, or place you are moving to.  Many times, we do not even realize we have these expectations and are surprised when they start coming out.

Expectations have a way of disappointing us when they concern the behavior of other people and not just ourselves.  We can control ourselves, but not others.  We enter into a marriage, a new job, a new city, or a new relationship with expectations about how things will be.  Many times, the reality does not match our expectations and we then feel disappointed and somehow cheated.

People enter into first marriages, in particular, with expectations about what their life and their partner will be like.  After the wedding, they find that things are not the fairy tale they expected.  Then they become disillusioned. They feel like they married the wrong person and want to get divorced.  Yet, if their expectations don’t change, they will run into the same problems again in another marriage.

Holding onto our expectations prevents us from moving forward and getting the most out of the situation.  We have to be able to let go of the expectations before we can progress to find the good in what we have.

To learn more about expectations, tune into our radio show on Thursday, September 27, 2012 at noon Pacific Time on AshfordRadio.com in Studio C.  The Three Generations of Payne will be there to discuss this important topic.