Dealing with Devastating Events

Most of us, at one time or another, have a devastating event that we must deal with.  Some examples are:  the divorce or death of a spouse, losing a job, death of a child, being in a serious accident, becoming disabled, being addicted to drugs, or loss of a beloved pet.

When we are dealing with a devastating event, we must learn to let go of our expectations and dreams and adjust to the new reality.    The steps of dealing with a devastating event are the same as the steps we must go through with a death:  denial, pain, guilt, anger, bargaining, depression, and acceptance.  We must learn to accept and deal with the reality of our situation.  Only then can we find our way forward.

The one lesson we must learn when dealing with a devastating event is that we cannot change the past.  Dealing with “what if…” or “if only I had…” type thinking will not change what has happened.  We must somehow find acceptance of what happened and focus on the question, “Where do I go from here?”

To learn more about this important topic, turn in to in Studio C on November 1, 2012 and hear what the Three Generations of Payne have to say.


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